Life Lessons!

Here's some random 'nuggets of pointless' that I've picked up in my 20 - something years.

Attractiveness

Women, generally speaking, think themselves less attractive than you think they are. This means, as a guy, you're sitting at the bar wanting to go over and talk to her, but you think she's too good looking for you, so you talk about football with your buddy instead. Meanwhile, she's over there wondering why no one is talking to her, and becoming convinced that she must look weird. Or her boobs aren't the 'right' size. Or her elbows are funny looking.

Lesson: It's a wonder we manage to breed as a species at all.

Sex

Most women like sex. Don't argue with her if she wants it. And for fucks sake - don't over think that shit. Give her what she wants. 

Lesson: Trust me, the world will be a better place.

Glasses

Women look better in glasses than men do. Almost without exception. And it's fucking annoying. 

Lesson: If you need glasses, be female.

Problems and Solutions

The world is made up of two types of people. Around 90% of us are the type that sees the problem, and tells you about it. While 10% of us are the type that sees the problem and suggests 3 solutions. The later type are typically your CEO's, bazillionaires, entrepreneurs, and general get-shit-done-bad-ass-bitches.

Lesson: Try not to be in the 90% . Even if you never quite get out of the herd, at least by trying you'll be a little less annoying to us 10%ers.

Dicks

Having a penis is excellent. Interestingly, in many cultures, simply having a penis affords you some additional benefits beyond simply being able to stick it into people. Or things. Some of these benefits are subtle, and some are utterly outrageous.

Lesson: If you have a dick, don't BE a dick. You've got it pretty good.

But here's the something I haven't figured out yet

Why - in my fucking twenties, can I still not spell 'necessary' without autocorrect helping me out?

The Fuck?

When You Kiss Her.

When you love someone, you care about their well being, success, happiness, health and growth. You want them to be well and you'd be willing to help them if they needed it.

When you love someone, you respect them and cherish who they truly are. You accept their flaws and understand that while they may not be perfect, it's their imperfections that colors their personality with the humanity you adore.

When you love someone, they take up a place in your soul permanently. They are never far from your thoughts and often times you'll smile at nothing more than a special memory and a warm feeling.

When you love someone. You know it. You accept it and use that love in its proper context. Love will display itself in many different ways and has a different texture and application depending on the relationship with who you love. But love is also universal and true, it's a lot of things to a lot of people.

When you love someone. You care, truly and deeply. You don't just hand out platitudes, you hand them your heart and would do anything to help them if you could and they needed it.

When you love someone, you do all of that and feel that way regardless if you're in a relationship with them or not. Even if you haven't spoken in ages, they still have a special place in your heart. Love never grows old and love never dies, it's just sometimes we bury it under things like jealously and resentment that we no longer have access to it.

When you love someone.

When you love someone, you care about their well being, success, happiness, health and growth. You want them to be well and you'd be willing to help them if they needed it.

When you love someone, you respect them and cherish who they truly are. You accept their flaws and understand that while they may not be perfect, it's their imperfections that colors their personality with the humanity you adore.

When you love someone, they take up a place in your soul permanently. They are never far from your thoughts and often times you'll smile at nothing more than a special memory and a warm feeling.

When you love someone. You know it. You accept it and use that love in its proper context. Love will display itself in many different ways and has a different texture and application depending on the relationship with who you love. But love is also universal and true, it's a lot of things to a lot of people.

When you love someone. You care, truly and deeply. You don't just hand out platitudes, you hand them your heart and would do anything to help them if you could and they needed it.

When you love someone, you do all of that and feel that way regardless if you're in a relationship with them or not. Even if you haven't spoken in ages, they still have a special place in your heart. Love never grows old and love never dies, it's just sometimes we bury it under things like jealously and resentment that we no longer have access to it.

Forever. Together. Almost.

Her - I really miss you 

Me - I miss you too! 

Her - Being apart is difficult. 

Me - Yes it is. Makes me appreciate our time together. 

Her - Me too! That's so sweet! 

Me - Makes me wanna be with you all the time. ALL THE TIME! 

Her - Me too! All the time! 

Me - Yep. All the time. 23/6. 

Her - 23/6?? That's not all the time! 

Me - Well, it's really close. 

Her - Close?? What about the other 24 hours?!?! 

Me - Well, nothing wrong with a little down time. 

Her - Down time!?!? WTF?? Downtime???? 

Me - Not to get away from you! Just cause MISSING you is such a treat. Reunion Sex! 

Her - Reunion Sex? Hmmmm.....ok. Good save. 

Me - (Whew!!) Thanks! Did I mention I miss you???

It's important you are speaking the right relationship language.

Love is not one size fits all and it's not always spoken in the same language between couples. I'm not talking about saying it in English, Hindi, French or Spanish, but I'm talking about how it's communicated through actions, words and interactions most of all.

Some might express love with flowers, while someone else might convey the same thing with spanking their significant other. Some might be gentle with the one they love while someone else might be harsh and rough with them. Some might want romantic dinners by candle light, some might just want kinky nights. Others might want it all.

Beyond feelings is the ability to express and live out those feelings. There are an infinite number of ways to tell someone you love them. Saying it is only one way and often the cheapest and easiest, but not always the best or most appropriate way to say it.

As the saying goes, actions speak louder than words and love is a verb. Well, those actions joined together are their own language.

You can say I love you in many different ways, it's not just feeling something for someone, but understanding what language they speak and knowing how to speak it. Because each relationship has its own language and when you start speaking a different one, than the one you both created, then you're not going to understand each other and no one enjoys having to overcome a language barrier.

P.S. If you're a book worm or looking for a book to read, I recommend - The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. Go for it.

Girls, Unlocked.

From a distance, they like to chat, have interesting conversations and aren't the sum total of what's on their mind.

Up close and in person, they like to chat, have interesting conversations and aren't the sum total of what's on their mind. 

And sometimes, when you chat, have interesting conversations and realize that she isn't the sum total of what's on her mind, 

She might love you like there is no tomorrow.

Keep Calm. It's Just a Movie. And You Should Watch It.

Source : Google.com

Hello everyone.

Go see the "Fifty Shades of Grey" movie.

Yes, it's a crap book, and we know the film won't portray BDSM in a realistic light (but it may do) Everyone I know has a different take on what is "the right way" to do fetish, and this film is just another version.

But Support the film.

"WTF?" you asked.

This that moment where you say, "But man, the story is crap, the grammar is crap, the metaphors are crap, the author's English would not have passed high school testing, it's a terrible representation of BDSM community, why in God's name are you advocating the movie?"

Here's why :

While I agree with every detractor regarding the books and the abusive nature of the story, the TRUTH IS - love it or hate it - that this book and this story have brought a MUCH WIDER ACCEPTANCE of BDSM IN GENERAL.

Over 100 Million copies of the books have been SOLD, and that number does not even include illegal downloads of the book, people lending the book, and the Waiting Lists at local libraries of people who want to read the book.

To give you some perspective, if we consider only people over the age of 18, that means about ONE IN EVERY 40 LITERATE ADULTS ON EARTH HAS OBTAINED THIS BOOK.
(Find my mathematical expression at the end of the blog.)

What this means is that, that "secret subject", that "taboo topic" of BDSM and D/s relationship is now FIRMLY OUT OF THE CLOSET ON A GLOBAL SCALE.

Does this mean that all these newcomers are getting a Good, Positive Idea of what BDSM is About?

Hell No.

50 Shades of Grey – the book and what we’ve seen so far of the film – is an inaccurate depiction of a BDSM relationship.

I don't know if you know that the BDSM community is entirely centred around the concept of consent. Consent is the very cornerstone of BDSM play. Those in the real-life BDSM community never indulge in kinky play without the consent of another. There can be no coercion or begging involved; it must be a consensual exchange of sexual and physical energy.

Throughout any BDSM scene, from the very beginning to the very end, consent must be positively and consistently given – and yet, many of the scenes in 50 Shades appear to happen without the consent of Anastasia, the submissive. Without consent, there can be no BDSM play.

Without consent, it is abuse.

It seems that even the author, E.L. James, misunderstands what a real BDSM community is like. Her “hunk”, Christian Grey, is a character that engages in sado-masochistic behaviour because he suffered through an abusive childhood, and at the end of the book, he is “cured” of his deviances and goes on to marry his partner, have children and live a vanilla life.

This is painfully wrong in two major ways. First, the implication that S&M is an outlet for a person’s inner demons because they are “damaged” degrades the many, many people who enjoy kink in a sane, safe way. Second, the implication that a victim of domestic abuse can eventually change the behaviour of his or her abuser is an incredibly troubling message to send out. Love, unfortunately, does not save all.

The very fact that you’re reading this blog also helps to maintain a healthy conversation around sexuality and the concepts of both Risk Aware Consensual Kink and “safe, sane and consensual”, two standards to which most in the BDSM community adhere. If you do nothing else today, look up those terms and learn a little more about what BDSM really is.

AT LEAST people are now OPEN TO TALKING ABOUT IT.

Supporting this movie means that, if box office ticket sales are good, then Hollywood will "Green Light" the next two books being made into films as well. That means about THREE YEARS during which This Will Be an Open Topic to Discuss.

This is - In Fact - an AMAZING opportunity to Educate the masses in WHY we/you find BDSM and D/s so profoundly Beautiful.

Do not curse the "Darkness of Nonsense" that 50 Shades vomits forth.

Rather, light a single torch - your knowledge of the Real World of Safe, Sane & Consensual BDSM and D/s - and bring your light into the darkness.

For the maths freak out there:

Average maximum age = 72 (globally)

Subtract 18 and under = 25%.
Seven Billion People on Earth x .75 = 5,250,000,000.
According to UNESCO there are approximately 1 Billion Non-Literate adults in the world = 4,250,000,000 Adult Readers.
Divide that by 100 Million Book Sales = 42.5.
And that does not include illegal downloads - the book started as an ebook and a search for "Fifty Shades Free Download" yields 9,850,000 pages on Google.
Add borrowing and sharing the book as well as libraries etc, and 1 out of every 42.5 is actually figuring too high.
So if we add in 5 Million non- purchased views conservatively, it's actually more like 1 out of every 40 people have read/obtained this book.